R.E.A.L. Neurodiverse™
Complete separately. Save your summary. Exchange when ready.
Divorce does not require difficult and traumatic conversations. In many jurisdictions in the United States, all you need is a written agreement that you can file together at a courthouse with a nominal fee. If a judge agrees that the divorce looks fair and uncoerced, you're done.
There's no need for fights, escalating conflicts, or expensive attorneys.
These resources help each person work through one divorce task at a time, privately and in writing. Each resource guides you through a structured set of questions and then creates a summary you can save, print, and share.
Each person completes their own version separately, on their own timeline. When ready, you may exchange summaries with the other person.
Before filing, take your written agreement to an attorney or mediator to ensure it is reasonable and complete under your jurisdiction's laws. You may also use these resources alongside individual or shared legal counsel. Some attorneys are willing to review agreements jointly, depending on your situation and jurisdiction.
Learn More About Sequential Divorce™Divorce decisions are connected. Housing affects budget. Budget affects parenting time. Parenting time affects support. If you are not sure which resource to begin with, the Progression Map Options can help you choose a practical path based on what is most urgent in your real life right now.
Each map gives you an order for moving through the Blue, Green, and Gold Zones so both people can work on the same area at the same time.
View Progression Map OptionsYou do not need to complete everything at once. Start with the resource that feels most useful or urgent right now.
Blue Zone
What do we own, owe, and need to divide?
Organize property, accounts, debts, missing documents, estimated values, and proposed division.
Your summary may include:
Output:
My Blue Summary: Assets and Debts
Green Zone
How will the children’s time, care, transportation, holidays, and decision-making be structured?
Organize parenting schedules, holidays, transportation, communication expectations, decision-making, and child-specific needs.
Your summary may include:
Output:
My Green Summary: Parenting Time and Care
Gold Zone
What does each household need to function?
Organize income, expenses, housing needs, child-related costs, child support, spousal support, and transition needs.
Child support and spousal support are placed together because both are part of the larger question of two-household financial stability.
Your summary may include:
Output:
My Gold Summary: Budget and Support
R.E.A.L. Neurodiverse™ Divorce Resources provide informational and organizational tools. They are not legal advice and do not create an attorney-client relationship. Always review divorce-related agreements with a qualified professional in your jurisdiction before signing or filing.